Encouragement. Who cheers you on?

lift up and cheer

Who cheers you on? Where do you find encouragement?

Let me ask you this…
Do you work to play or does your work feel like play? Who lifts you up when you need encouragement?

I’m a member of Tara Gentile‘s membership site, CoCommercial. The discussion of unconstructive cheerleading vs constructive encouragement came up. Ever the outlier, I saw a possible 3rd option, mindful cheerleading.
Intrigued by my idea, Tara asked me to write about it and share with her community. My post, a short 3 minute read, first appeared on Help Yourself.

Does it feel like your hard efforts must carry you to a win or is what you learn from your efforts the real win. Regardless of the outcome can your actions and efforts feel like progress?

Here’s the thing. Sometimes we can’t see the forest for the trees. We’re so close to the immediate terrain that we lose our ability to see just how far we’ve come.

And when we feel we aren’t moving ahead we can easily fail to see our progress
…not to mention that we’re often mind-lugging unrealistic expectations of ourself every step of the way.

Our inner critic has a field day when we buy into those huge unrealistic expectations. Thought loops from the doom chamber can fill our head, become daunting and fill us with doubt. We can feel incredibly alone.

At times like this, look for the cheerleaders, your cheerleaders.
I’m not speaking of pom poms, marching bands and a pep rally of perfectly choreographed routines overtaking your path. I’m speaking of another kind of  encouragement. And this isn’t a shallow, vapid shower of make nice-nice either. This kind of cheer aligns with core drivers and goodwill no matter the outcome.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on what kind of encouragement is most helpful for you. What kind of cheerleading would you love to receive and most importantly, do you take time to cheer yourself?

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PS
Here’s the link, again to my post of how mindful cheerleading fills a business need. Cheers!

Unexpected Results or a Steaming Teapot of Belief?

 

thoughts. beliefs. steaming in hot water |art © Dawn Kotzer
Thought-full teapot

Did we get unexpected results or a steaming teapot of belief?

Thought to action to result. Seems simple enough, right?
How is it then that the result we hope for is often NOT the result we get?
While thoughts activate the end result, what activates thought?
Steeping, brewing, sitting beneath it all is a belief waiting to be expressed.

Change our inner thoughts, change our inner world.
Change our perception, change our reality.
There’s real truth in that.
However, when we want to make lasting change to our inner world
we need to look at which belief is in flow, which one is running the show.

The flow goes like this:

BELIEF
prompts
THOUGHT
which fosters
FEELING
that propels
ACTION
which delivers
RESULT.
And the RESULT always validates the initial belief.
So the next time you wonder what the heck you were thinking, check what was activated just beneath the surface.

To put it in a more playful way…

See the tea pot?
You are the the pot.
The tea leaves (Belief) are what you carry within.
The hot water (Thought) activates warmth (Feeling.)
Steam happens (Action)
Viola`!  Scented Jasmine tea (Result)
Which of-course validates the fact that you had Jasmine tea leaves in the pot.

No problem, right?
Nope~ except that you wanted something a little more spicy.
Turns out you were aiming for Chai. 

Thoughts do create feelings which create action which does produce a result.
But the next time your results are NOT what you hoped they’d be,
do little thoughtful investigation. What was really running the show?
When you make the effort and aim for a specific result, activate an inner belief that will support the outcome you desire.

May that pot of tea you brewed align with your desires  and exceed all expectations.
… and yes, I’d love a cup of Chai. ^..^

I’d love to hear your comments. Post away.


As a master coach, entrepreneur and artist, I use a lifetime of diverse experience, humor and grass roots wisdom to help others bridge their self confidence gap.  Don’t let fear keep you in the dark.  If you’d like a little breathing room in this experience called life, drop me a line. Let’s talk.

 

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