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Passion Prey or Passion Play?

Tuesday, April 19th, 2016

passion and hound at play

‘I must find and follow my passion. I’ve tried everything and I can’t find it. ‘

During my years as a coach I’ve heard this a lot... and I always feel compelled to ask
“What if you let it find you? Sometimes our search feels more like like passion prey.

Wouldn’t you rather feel passion play?”
Sometimes people appreciate the question and sometimes? not so much.

I had dropped to the ground to take a closeup photo of a crocus in bloom.  This is what happened next.
Teagen, my Irish Wolfhound closed in, intent in her desire to come to my aid. I mean I was laying prone-obviously in need of protection from this small blue thing in my face, right? The crocus turned into her prey…until she read my energy and then, alas, the poor flowers became the object of play. My hound snouted the flowers out of the soil and tossed them in the air.  Prancing around, she seized the moment, tossing them up again and again.  From passion prey to passion play in the blink of an eye.

Years later this moment stays with me.
Perhaps because I loved my dog or perhaps because I’ve often thought the moment a good metaphor for my take on the need to discover one’s passion. I don’t quite buy into it.  The hunt becomes too confusing as so often we miss the obvious.

Think about it. What do you feel when you go hunting for something you really want to find? Car keys, house keys, bank card, phone? In that moment, they are the prey. What energy is fueling you? Usually desperation, irritation or frustration. And holy hell if you can’t find them. Just sayin’.

What happens when you stalk your passion like prey?  You try to capture a fleeting glimpse of it so you can hunt it down, claim ownership and in a blinding flash know your way? My experience has been that this happens on the big screen and not in real life.

Oh ya, passion can make us feel alive. I love feeling the adrenaline of life in my fingertips. It’s just that satisfaction, curiosity and peace have consistently led me toward a more wholehearted, playful self, where I can own knowing that I am enough for me.  Passion and desire have arrived with unrealistic expectations that made me nervous as opposed to confident.

What if clearing a welcoming, nurturing, flexible inner space that allows for growth, change and reflection could channel a little more invigorating adrenaline your way? A little less hype, a little more curiosity? A little less prey and a little more play?
If you were passion would that draw you in or push you away?
You don’t have to answer right away…let the question percolate and see what bubbles up.

The next time you feel the desperate need to find your passion, lean into curiosity.
Give yourself permission to feel a good-enough-in-this-moment vibe and then go play.
Let passion come to you as part of the joy of being in the now.

Updated and revised from a post,originally published in 2010. Seems searching for our passion and purpose in life is part of human be-ing.

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